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I just got my girlfriend pregnant. She is 15, and I'm 17. I'm ready to head off to college and start a life for myself, but now we have to deal with this! I'll be moving 4 hours away, and even though I love her, I can't have her and the baby in my life now. I don't want her to abort, but I don't know what to do since this a crucial time in my life!

-A hopeless father

Dear hopeless,

You are at a crucial decision making time in your life. Anthony Robbins said , "It's in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped." How will the decision you make at this time shape your destiny, along with the destiny of your girlfriend and baby?

Let's get one thing straight right from the start - you are already the father of this baby, whether it's convenient for you or not! You made the decision to have sex, and now you have to live with the results.

With that clearly in your mind, it's time to decide. Will you make the right choice and accept the responsibility you have to your girlfriend and baby or not? Will you act like a real man or a wimpy mouse? Take your eyes off yourself! This isn't just about you!

 

 

You said that you love your girlfriend. If so, what's the loving thing to do for her? Abortion is not loving to her and not to your baby. All abortion does is leave one dead and one wounded for life. There's no love in that.

There are loving choices you and your girlfriend can make. You probably won't like to hear this, but I think that all of these choices will involve you putting your move to college on hold for a while. Your girlfriend will need your support at this time. Remember, this isn't all about you.

First, I'd suggest that the two of you make an appointment to talk to a crisis pregnancy center (CPC) counselor. I'm sure there is a CPC somewhere nearby. Go to this website to find a center near you - http://www.pregnancycenters.org/advantage.asp

If you are looking for a pregnancy center outside of the United States or Canada , call 1-800-395-4357 or send an e-mail to answers@optionline.org for information about other agencies in your area.

Remember , "It's in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped."

Make the right decision!