Dear Friend,
You're experiencing what often happens when someone gets into the dating game. Dating can lead to an exclusion of other people, even some who have been close friends for a long time. The focus often becomes solely on the boyfriend or girlfriend. Then you can imagine what happens when the dating relationship dissolves. Having closed others out during the dating time, the other relationships have been been set aside and may or may not be rejuvenated. You're wise to avoid the dating game and rather do things in groups of friends. That's the best way to have healthy friendships!

So, what can you do about the relationship with your friend now that she has a boyfriend? Not too much, I'm sorry to say. Relationships are two way streets with both people needing to put some time and effort into the relationship. All I can suggest is that you be patient and put your efforts into relationships that build you up and are mutual friendships.

Something you might want to consider is taking this Safety Check when it comes to your friendships.

Now that you’ve completed the chart and totaled the columns, let’s see what it all means. The closer the total is to 27 points, the more “safe” this friend is. If the score is quite low, you need to make some decisions as to whether you should end this friendship or seek to make some serious changes. Talk to your parents about this to get their feedback and advice.

Also, how did you score? What does your score reveal about your “safety” in friendships that you have? Give this some thought.

I wish you the best in all your friendships!